Life Update

My poor neglected blog.

It has been a long time since I posted any thing on here. Life just took over and I just haven’t had the motivation to blog.

Anyway here’s what has been happening over the last 8 months.

Had a Baby

I gave birth a few days before Christmas to a healthy baby boy. He arrived 2 days before my due date and weighed 3.74kg! It was a natural delivery with the aid of an epidural. I’m quite a petite person so my mid wife and the nurses were impressed that I was able to birth such a big baby lol. Labour was incredibly painful, OMG! Especially when the contractions were just a few minutes apart. Thank goodness for pain relief medication!!

Packing Up the House

If you have followed my blog you would know that my family is planning to move overseas to Sri Lanka for a few years. So we slowly started to sell all our furniture and clean up the house to be rented out. I’m happy to say that we successfully sold or gave away everything we wanted to and we also found tenants.

Moving Overseas

One of the most chaotic times in my life. Trying to clear out the house and pack up to move overseas while juggling two small children, including a newborn is no easy feat. I look back and I don’t know how I survived the madness.

Settling Into Our New Home

The first two days were chaotic to say the least. Since then things have slowly settled down. We have been here in Sri Lanka for over 3 months now but I still don’t feel like I have completely settled as yet. I have my good days and bad days. Packing up and moving overseas 2 months after giving birth isn’t the most ideal thing to do, hence it is still taking time to settle. I have definitely struggled postpartum this time around compared to last time.

I’ve basically summarised the madness of the last few months in a few paragraphs. It’s definitely been the most challenging period of my life. I can’t say that I’m happy about where things are right now, but hopefully we do eventually settle down in the next few months.


September, October 2018 Monthly Recap

As I’ve been slack on the blogging front, here’s a recap of what’s been happening the last 2 months.


Happy spring!

Although the weather was very erratic and horrible. Warm one day, cold and raining the next. As a result, we as a family got pretty sick and the inconsistent weather was a contributing factor for sure.

My husband returned from his business trip earlier in the month and we were continuously getting sick since his return. Munchkin recovered after about a week and a half but I haven’t been able to shake it off. My husband still has a cough which just won’t go away.


After procrastinating for a while, I finally decided to start selling some of my clothes online. I have never sold clothes or shoes online and these are items that are still in good condition, some hardly worn and just don’t fit me anymore as my body has changed since having my first child.

So far it has been good. I have managed to sell several items and I still have more items listed. I haven’t made a large sum of money from these sales and most of my pencil skirts have been selling for around $5. But that’s fine by me and I am just happy to be offloading these items and getting a small amount of money in return.


I managed to read one book this month. It was a very short book about positivity.

MINDSET: How Positive Thinking Will Set You Free & Help You Achieve Massive Success In Life By Benjamin Smith


This is a very short book which gives some decent advice on how to change your mindset to think more positive. It’s not groundbreaking and doesn’t really offer anything new. However, it does serve its purpose as a quick reminder and inspiration to change our outlook and be more positive in our lives.


The sickness in my household continued in October. It took me a while to shake it off and just when things seemed to settle, munchkin got really sick 2 weeks ago with a bad virus which involved him getting high fevers in the middle of the night. My husband left for a business trip 2 days before munchkin got sick so that was even more stressful for me. Luckily I have my parents to help me out.

We had a long weekend at the beginning of the month and I was able to meet up with one of my dear friends for a day out. I haven’t seen him in the flesh for over 2 years and a lot has happened in his life during that period, most notably a divorce. But he has picked himself up and achieved so much since that horrible time, including getting promoted at work and buying a house so I’m very proud of him.


I had my 28 week scan at the start of the month and I’m happy to say that the baby is on track and growing well.

As I write this I am 33 weeks pregnant and I cannot believe how fast this pregnancy has gone. As munchkin came early at 37 weeks, I am almost expecting this baby to come early as well. I would like to get to 38 weeks this time however, fingers crossed.

Other than that we packed up 15 boxes with loads of baby items and other necessities and shipped them off to Sri Lanka. We will most likely be moving there in February.

I have also continued to sell items online. I managed to sell several more items of clothing and shoes and have also sold our IKEA shoe cabinets. There’s still plenty more to sell before we head off overseas.

Final Thoughts

Well the last two months have been busy but have also been consumed by sickness in my household. I really hope there’s no more plagues of sickness in November, however I have already managed to get conjunctivitis in my right eye 😦 I’m hoping that clears up in a few days.

November is going to be busy as need I to get as much done as possible before the baby arrives. I will also be going on maternity leave at the end of the month. Here’s hoping for a productive and sick free month!

August 2018 Monthly Recap

August was a busy month.

At the very beginning of the month I had my 20 week scan. We saw our little munchkin moving around and being a champion. The baby was on track in terms of growth and the results showed that everything was moving along very well. Far cry from the ordeal I had to go through earlier in the pregnancy.

To celebrate our good news and to treat ourselves for the rough few months that we have had, we decided to go on a short getaway. We decided to visit the Sunshine Coast in Queensland as we knew the weather would be nice and the flight time was just over one hour. The weather was beautiful and we had a really nice break. We visited Australia Zoo which was beautiful, although I think my son is still a bit young to truly enjoy the zoo. I did feel like the food was average as was the hotel we stayed at. However, overall it was nice to get away and munchkin had the best time so it was well worth it. This trip was our “baby moon” 🙂

Australia Zoo

Taken at Australia Zoo

I feel like I have only really started to enjoy my pregnancy this month. As I had to go through a few pre natal tests and wasn’t sure of the outcome, I didn’t want to get too attached. Although had the outcome been bad, I would have been devastated nonetheless. Detaching yourself completely is truly impossible in my experience.

So as we started to announce our pregnancy to our friends, I found out that one of my oldest friends is also expecting. This is her first pregnancy and I am so thrilled for her. She is due about 2.5 months after me and our babies are the same gender. I still can’t believe we are both pregnant at the same time.

At the end of the month, my husband had to go overseas for a business trip. Of course this always leads to me being more busy but I had my parents to help me out which was great.

Just a quick update for August. I’m looking forward to spring and the warmer weather. Hope you all had a great month!

July 2018 Monthly Recap and a Special Announcement

July 2018 Monthly Recap and a special Announcement

July was the month of stress!

Getting Organised

I seem to write something about getting organised almost every month. It’s so hard to keep on top of, especially when our home keeps shifting. This continues to be a work in progress, that’s for sure.

I have decided to use an app called Wunderlist to help me with my quest. It’s free and has a desktop version as well which is useful. So far it has been working reasonably well.

I have to give a shout out to Sherry at Spend Save Splurge who’s organisation posts I have found motivational and inspiring. These two posts in particular were very helpful.

July was reasonably productive and I managed to complete the following tasks.

  • Decided on an organisational tool to use and get started ie: Wunderlist
  • Updated my laptop. It was so out of date, I hadn’t even setup the wifi on it since getting back to Sydney. It was also behind on several OS updates and I also had an issue in Chrome, which was not allowing me to click on links in Hotmail. Resetting Chrome back to its default settings fixed the problem. I also installed Wunderlist, uninstalled unrequired programs and organised my desktop.
  • Setup direct debit for my internet bill and also switched to having email bills instead of paper for this bill.
  • Did a heap of laundry. Aside from the regular laundry I also washed all of our dirty bedsheets, pillow cases and quilt covers which had been piling up over the last few months.

Special Announcement

I am expecting baby #2!!

The baby is due at the end of the year. We are all excited and looking forward to welcoming the newest addition to our family. The age gap between my son and the baby will be 2 years, which is what I always wanted.

My pregnancy journey so far has been quite stressful unfortunately. At 12 weeks one of the prenatal tests I was asked to do returned a high risk result for a chromosomal abnormality. I also did another test around the same time which gave me the all clear. However due to the discrepancies between the two tests I had to undergo further testing.

The genetic counselor and doctors that I consulted all told me that I was a low risk candidate which was reassuring, however it did leave a small doubt in our minds. So at 17 weeks I underwent an amniocentesis prenatal test and it took another agonising 2 weeks to get the full results back from that test.

The results from the amniocentesis were good and we got the all clear for everything. It was a huge relief and we could finally tell our family and close friends that we were expecting. Yes we kept it a secret from everyone for nearly 19 weeks! The only person I told was my manager at work at the 17 week mark. I told him because this whole process was taking longer than expected and I wanted him to be aware that I was going through some health issues. Telling my manager relieved my stress levels too as I had to take some time off and I didn’t want to feel judged and guilty as a result of this.

Other Life Stuff

Munchkin finally settled into day care this month. He has stopped crying during drop offs and he generally seems content and happy whilst he is there, based on the photos I get of him throughout the day. He received his mid year report card (so cute!) and it said he was settling in well and learning to become more independent.

The government also introduced a new child care subsidy in July. In the new system we are getting a bigger discount compared to before which is nice. This is mainly because our incomes have dropped. I don’t know how the whole thing works, but I am happy to get any financial assistance with day care as it is so expensive.

In the end, July ended well for us. I am carrying a healthy baby who I cannot wait to meet at the end of the year. Hope you all had a great month!

March, April, May, June 2018 Monthly Recap

My poor neglected blog. I have been extremely busy the last few months but also lacking some serious motivation to blog. So I thought I would write a recap for the last 4 months, so here it is.


Back in March I had to do some soul searching and accept the realities of my life at present and for the foreseeable future. It was rough and involved many deep conversations and arguments with my husband.

In the end we both decided that at the end of the day we want to be together as a family, always. For me to live in Sydney while he is regularly overseas for long periods of time is not an arrangement that will work for us. This basically means that I have to sacrifice my career for the next few years.

Is it worth it? If everything works out, financially, it will be worth it. I just hope my career doesn’t take too much of a hit and when we do come back home, I can find work without too much trouble.


I read this book as a part of the book club I joined.

The Handmaid’s Tale By Margaret Atwood

the handmaids tale by margaret atwood

This book kept me interested from the beginning. It falls under the utopian genre and the story is basically set in a world where women are used as objects. There were parts of the book which were slow, but overall it was interesting.

Simple: 30 Ways to Declutter Your Life By Beth Jones

simple 30 ways to declutter your life

This is a short and simple book which gives you practical tips on how to declutter your life. It’s a quick read and can easily be referred to later on for motivation and inspiration.

52 Small Changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You By Brett Blumenthal


I struggled to get through this book. In fact I skipped most of it as it was just too long and boring. There were a few takeaways from it but overall I wouldn’t recommend it.


April was busy busy busy. During April we went on a 3 day break to the south of Sri Lanka which was really nice. The hotel we stayed at was great with beautiful ocean views and delicious food. Munchkin had a ball and loved every minute.

Ahungalla Sri Lanka

It was also time to pack up and get ready to come back home to Australia. On top of that it was time to pack up the apartment we were staying in as we will be living in a new apartment when we return. Of course this made things much more hectic and despite not having many things to pack as we were only there for a few months, it still took forever to pack up everything, and at times it felt like it would never end. I seriously hate moving!

At the very end of the month we returned back home to Sydney. Yay!


May was all about settling back home in Sydney. This turned out to be harder than I expected. It took munchkin about 3 weeks to get over the jet lag, this was not fun. He also started day care and this has been a big adjustment for him as he has become quite comfortable being at home with me. He is slowly settling in and does cry during drop offs but as the weeks went by the cries did get shorter at least.

I also returned to work this month. I am back working on a part time basis (3 days a week) and it feels good to be back. I’m in a new office now with a lot less people. That took about 2 weeks to get used to as I have always worked in large offices.


June was just hectic!

My husband was away at the start of the month as he had to go on a business trip, so this meant things got even busier for me. I had to do day care drop offs and pick ups, in addition to going to work and managing everything at home. I did go and stay at my parents over the weekend and that gave me some relief at least.

My dad has also been unwell and had to undergo some major surgery mid month. He is now recovering well but does have one more operation to go. Fingers crossed everything goes well and he’s back to being healthy again.

Munchkin has continued to slowly settle into daycare, however over one month in, he does still cry during drop offs. I don’t think he cries for very long and I do get photos everyday which show that he’s doing ok. He did get very sick mid month which was not fun. It took over a week for him to recover and then he contracted a 24 hour viral bug last week, which my husband then picked up as well. They have both recovered now but it was a stressful couple of days.

Final Thoughts

Woo hoo! I finally managed to finish a blog post! This has been sitting in my drafts for a while.

Sadly I haven’t had the time or motivation to do much reading in the last 2 months, but hoping to turn that around in the coming months.

I hope things start to calm down and I get more energy and motivation to get organised again. I am currently researching a few tools to help me out and it looks like Wunderlist is winning. Any recommendations on good organizational apps that also have a desktop version, let me know.

Hope you all had a great first half to 2018!

Images: Goodreads

February 2018 Monthly Recap

February 2018 Monthly Recap

February has mostly been a good month.

It was also my birthday this month. I am officially in my mid-thirties and now I really feel old…sigh.


The day before my birthday we had a wedding to attend for a relative on my husbands side. The wedding was located outside of the city and we had to travel around 150km to get there. It would usually us take over 2 hours to travel this distance back home, however due to the inadequate roads here in Sri Lanka it can take at least 4 hours to get there, depending on traffic. The traffic conditions were good that day so it took us 4 hours to get there and our return trip was the same. Both journeys included a pit stop at the half way mark as well.

We made it on time for the wedding and left about 2 hours later. We had a long journey ahead of us so the hosts were very understanding that we couldn’t stay for long. The wedding was nice and we made it back home around 7:30pm that night which was great. We were all very tired by the end and munchkin was especially restless in the last 2 hours of the journey, so we were happy to get home at a reasonable time.

I managed to pamper myself a little before the wedding too. I had a facial, haircut and blow dry, all for Rs.5200, which is roughly $43 AUD. Not bad huh? 🙂 I wasn’t overly impressed with the facial but I loved the hair cut and blow dry.

Meeting New People

I mentioned in last months monthly recap post that I had joined a local mothers group. I have continued to attend these weekly meet ups which have been really good for me and my son. This month I managed to also host a meet up at our home. It was nice and my son enjoyed having some friends over to play with.

Through this mothers group, I have also joined a book club. We have our first meet up in a few weeks and I am more than half way through the selected book for the month. The funny thing is that I have wanted to join a book club for about 2 years and back home I wasn’t able to find one that ran at a convenient time. I have now managed to find one in a foreign land, thousands of kilometres away. It’s funny how these things work out.

Final Thoughts

Overall this month has been pretty good, I have settled down however I did have a few bad days which were mainly caused by boredom and isolation. I think I have accepted the situation we are in a lot more now than before. I’m a work in progress.

I hope February treated you all well.

Reducing My Digital Usage – An Experiment

Smartphones have made our lives more convenient but they have also made us unfocused and distracted. About 2 years ago I realised that I wasn’t concentrating at work as much as I should be. I was checking my phone regularly for no particular reason at all.

Reducing My Digital Usage

This initial realisation made me do one thing and that was to…

Turn off most notifications on my phone.

I turned off notifications for most social media apps such as Facebook and Instagram. I also deleted a few apps that I was no longer using.

This initial change did help me and the number of times I checked my phone did reduce. I was satisfied with the progress I made, however as time went on I realised that this was not enough.

The problem was that I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t want to give up my phone entirely and I had already switched off notifications for apps that were the most distracting.

So about one year passed by and I didn’t do anything more about it until I had a random conversation with a friend. My friend told me that he had been doing some research on this topic as he was sick of being distracted and wanted to spend his time on more meaningful things.

We discussed some of the changes he was starting to make in his life. He said he had plans to downgrade his phone to a basic one and use his smartphone for music only. Hence he planned to do all of his online tasks on his desktop computer.

This was a light bulb moment for me!

Why not do more things on the desktop/laptop computer instead of the phone? It made perfect sense and I wish I had thought of it myself.

So that afternoon I took a leap and removed several apps from my phone. I removed every social media app except for Instagram as you can’t use that properly on a desktop computer. I figured I can check sites like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Pinterest on the computer and I should try and limit myself to check these sites 1-2 times a day.

Early Progress

After making these initial changes I did feel bored the first few days. However, I realised that this was because I had extra time on my hands. With a toddler it is a little hard to make use of it as you have to watch them constantly but its certainly better to be more present with them compared to being distracted and checking the phone for the 100th time.

As the days went by I made another big change which was that I stopped taking my phone with me to bed. I usually charge my phone in the bedroom overnight, but now I charge it in the living room instead. Previously the first thing I did when I woke up was check my phone and waste at least 10-15 minutes on social media. I would also check my phone before going to sleep and sometimes start looking up random things if I wasn’t able to fall asleep. This has been one of the biggest changes I have made and has been a very positive one that even my husband has followed me on 🙂

Moving Forward

I’m really happy with the progress I have made so far and it has been a positive change in my life. It hasn’t been all smooth sailing though as I did turn to my phone a lot more when we were moving houses and relocating overseas at the end of last year.

I can honestly say I have definitely reduced the amount of time I spend on social media. I no longer check Facebook, Pinterest or LinkedIn on a regular basis, maybe once a week if at all, and I probably check Twitter about twice a day. Not having these social media apps on my phone has made a big difference.

Moving forward I want to continue to reduce the time I spend on my phone even more. I don’t want to turn to my phone whenever I feel bored and would obviously prefer to do something more productive with that time.

A few additional things I want to start doing are:

  • Start having a “phone off” time at 9pm every night. Theoretically, starting at 9pm I should start to get ready for bed and not touch my phone.
  • Use the desktop computer to do more digital tasks. I am still using the phone to do things like blogging, pay bills, banking and check emails but I really want to use the phone as less as possible.
  • Eventually delete the WordPress and Email apps from my phone.

Further Reading

Here’s some further reading if you are interested on this topic.

Have you tried to reduce the amount of time you spend on your smartphone and social media? If so, what strategies have you used?

Why I Blog

If I am being honest, I don’t have truck loads of motivation to blog on a regular basis. My motivation wavers and I don’t put too much pressure on myself to write articles as I never want it to become a chore.

This lead me to think about why I blog. I have seen several articles pop up lately in the personal finance domain about what people’s “why’s” are in regards to their finances. So I thought it would be fun to list down my why’s for blogging.

Why I Blog

To Document My Life

My Monthly Recap posts have become a way for me to document my life. When I started blogging I never thought about writing monthly posts, but it has since evolved into a regular thing. I enjoy writing these posts as I can look back and think about what I actually got up to that month and then look back and reflect at the end of the year.

A Hobby

Although when I started this blog I never thought of it as a hobby, it has evolved to be a hobby. It’s not a hobby I love spending huge amounts of time on but it is still fulfilling and fun.

Improve My Writing

I am sure I have improved my writing at least a little. I don’t know how much but I like to think my writing has somewhat improved since I first started.

Share Knowledge

I like to learn things from other people’s blogs so I hope I have shared a thing or two on this blog that has helped someone. It’s nice to have a platform to express my thoughts on a particular subject and also ask for feedback.

Writing Book Reviews

I love writing book reviews. One of my favourite things to do in my Monthly Recap posts is to review the books that I have read that month. These book reviews have definitely motivated me to read more as well.

Making New Friends

Something I didn’t expect was to have was regular followers. It’s so lovely to know that people actually visit this blog and take the time to leave a comment. It makes it worthwhile to keep going.

Final Thoughts

I never started this blog with the intention of making money (not that there is anything wrong with that). You can see that I’m still using the free WordPress template and domain name. I do it just for the fun of it and I don’t put pressure on myself to write regularly because sometimes there is just no time or motivation.

So I am basically not going anywhere. Even if I don’t write for a while, I will come back eventually. I don’t want to ever abandon this blog as it is my little space on the Internet.

So tell me, why do you blog?

January 2018 Monthly Recap

Happy new year!

Not the best start

I didn’t have the best start to the new year as I had to deal with a personal crisis. However, I have decided that there is no point dwelling on what has happened and what could have been. I can’t change what has happened so it’s best to just push on and focus on the future.

Settling in

This month has been all about settling into our new life here in Sri Lanka. It has been a big adjustment and it has not been easy. Early on I was feeling very isolated and unhappy but as time passed things started to get better. I can now say that I am finally somewhat settled. I have hired a maid who comes 2 days a week and she helps with the cooking and some of the cleaning. This has been a huge help considering my now very active and clingy toddler doesn’t let me do very much. She also looks after munchkin for an hour or so (if I am lucky), so that I can have some time for myself.

Meeting new people

Through a chance meeting with a neighbour, I was lucky enough to be introduced to a local mothers group. The mothers in the group take turns to host meet ups every week at their respective homes and this group is specifically for babies born in 2016/2017. So far munchkin and I have attended two meet ups and we have had a great time. He has enjoyed interacting with the other kids and I have enjoyed meeting new people.


January 2018 monthly recap

Getting out of the house and meeting other mums has definitely helped me mentally. If not for this I would probably still be feeling miserable so I’m just thankful that I found this group. It’s funny how I never ended up finding something like this back in Australia and I had to travel thousands of kilometres in order to do so 🙂


I finished reading one book this month. I actually started reading this book late last year but as life got hectic, I never got around to finishing it up until now.

The book I read was:

The rosie project by graeme simsion

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

I loved this book! The author drew me in very early on and it was an easy book to read overall. The book is narrated by the lead character Don Tillman and despite his eccentric ways, he is a very lovable character. I can see why this book was a best seller and the next book, The Rosie Effect is already on my list of books to read.


I did set myself a few goals this year and I was planning to write a dedicated post just for that, however I have decided not to make a big deal out of it. My motivation has been wavering so I don’t want to put too much pressure on myself.

So just for fun I will just list them in this post.

Look After Myself

Since having a baby I have let myself go a little, so I want to turn this around and start looking after myself more. I have been putting everyone else first, but now I want to put a bit more effort into myself. I started making some changes late last year and so far I think I’m doing ok. I have been taking better care of my skin and trying to be more presentable when I leave the house.

Reduce My Digital Usage

I have a dedicated post about this which is coming soon. I basically want to reduce the amount of time I spend on the phone and social media.

Read 15 Books

Developing a reading habit over the last two years is something that I’m really proud of and I want to continue to enhance this habit even more. I only read 2 books last year which was disappointing but this year I want to set myself the goal of 15 books. This might be a small number for some people but it’s a pretty high number for me. However, I think if I stay focused and persevere it’s definitely achievable.

Make an Album for My Son

I have taken so many photos of munchkin so I really need to make the effort to put an album together. I have made the first step of transferring all the photos from my phone to my laptop, so now I’m in the process of selecting the best photos for an album.

Final Thoughts

Although the start of the month wasn’t great, at least it has ended well. I can’t believe I have been living in Sri Lanka for over a month now, the time is going by quickly.

I hope you all had a good start to 2018!

Images: Goodreads, Tumblr

2017 End of Year Review

December mostly revolved around packing up and getting organised before setting off to South East Asia for our extended stay. The country we are moving to is Sri Lanka and we left Australia a few days before Christmas. It was sad to leave home, especially knowing how much my parents are going to miss my son. However I just keep telling myself it’s temporary.

We have been here for about 2 weeks now and I am slowly settling in. The climate isn’t too bad this time of year and as we have family here, we have been getting a fair bit of help which is nice.

Negambo Sri Lanka

Negambo Sri Lanka. Taken just as the sun set.

That said 2017 has not been the best year for us. I was dealt another blow about a week ago and that has just sealed it for me.

Despite this there were a few highlights.

  • Watching my baby grow into the happy little toddler that he is. Raising him has been a pleasure and I still can’t believe he’s one! I’m not going to lie, it’s been hard work but it has also been very rewarding.
  • We travelled to Sri Lanka and introduced munchkin to our families in July.
  • We bought a new house and renovated it.
  • I paid off my student loan.
  • Reduced my smart phone and social media usage. I have a post about this sitting in my drafts which I haven’t got around to publishing yet but it will be coming soon.


I didn’t track our expenses in 2017 as it just became too hard and time consuming. I know we spent a lot of money this year with a new baby and buying a new house with renovations on top. We were also on a single income for most of the year.

Our house didn’t sell which was disappointing, however we are renting it out which means our mortgage for that house is covered. If we had sold we would be in a better financial position.

I would say overall we could have been more careful with our money. In hindsight we probably shouldn’t have bought a house before selling our current house. But that’s life I guess and I don’t have a crystal ball, so we have just accepted that it is what it is.


I only read 2 books this year and I am really disappointed with this. I’m really hoping to turn this around in 2018.

The books I read were:

  1. Baby Secrets – How to know your baby’s needs by Jo Tantum and Barbara Want – Review
  2. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee – Review


I published 12 posts in 2017 which is not a very high number but considering all the changes I have been through I’m not disappointed with this number either. Here’s hoping I have the motivation to write more in 2018.

Overall I’m glad to see the end of 2017. Here’s to a more prosperous 2018. Happy new year guys!